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Discovering The Three Principles: How It Helped Me Get Out Of My Own Way

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We, humans, love to get in our own way, don’t we?

I know I did, for many, many years.

Throughout much of my 20s and 30s, I felt stressed out, often anxious, and would wake up feeling tired and exhausted. I naturally assumed that the cause of my stress was coming from my job, the sales targets I was trying to reach, and at times, other people too!

Because of this, I became very good at changing my circumstances. Job making me feel stressed? Right, I’ll go and get another one....

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"I should be 'there' by now, why is this taking so long?"

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Here we are in March!

I think we're safely out of the woods now when it comes to endless reminders on social media about new years resolutions! I guess by now, it's assumed that we've either:

a) Smashed it.

b) Started, but given up somewhere between 2 Jan and 28th Feb.

c) Didn't even bother setting any.

Well, I'm not here to resurrect that conversation, (who am I to talk, I'm in the C camp) but where I'd like to shine the spotlight is those moments when we look at where we are in life,...

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Overwhelm and burnout: The ONE thing worth knowing that can stop that cycle.

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Earlier on today, I was reading an article about an entrepreneur who is up to some really cool things in Brighton, UK. This got my mind idly thinking back to when I used to live there, which led on to nostalgic feelings for my time there, and then before you know it, I'm on Rightmove browsing 3 bedroom properties in Hove!
 
Imagine if I didn't know that just because you have a thought, doesn't mean you have to act on it?
 
That's how it happens though isn't it? We have a...

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"Wouldn't it be cool if...?"

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Hope you've had a good January? Here's what I've been up to...

Do you know that feeling when an idea pops in your head, quite unexpectedly, but makes total sense to you about what to do next? The long winter break gave me much pause for thought about the way I work, and what came to mind with such clarity was this - I don't want to work on my own anymore, or rather, I want to create something with other people.

What was interesting is that it didn't come from a place of...

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I just want an easier life, is that too much to ask?

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No, it's not too much to ask.

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Did you know YOU are not your thoughts and feelings?

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Bad moods, thought storms, down in the dumps.  They all point to the same thing - not feeling great. 

When we're in this state of mind, have you noticed that EVERYTHING seems to look annoying/frustrating/generally rubbish?

At this point, I could say something along the lines of the fact that thoughts do change moment to moment, so if you don't like how you feel, it's OK because another one will be along in just a moment.

But what if it really seems like one bad mood thought is being...

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Superstitions, Insights, and Playing Better Tennis!

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Don't walk under ladders. Always maintain eye contact when you 'cheers' someone. See a magpie, salute it. 

Wikipedia describes superstitious thinking as "any belief or practice that is considered irrational: for example, if it arises from ignorance, a misunderstanding of science or causality."

So what helps us to 'see through' superstitious thinking? The answer is - insights. 

In the coaching work that I do, I often ask people about insights; what insights have you had since...

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Tired Of Trying To 'Think Positive' All The Time?

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Tired of trying to 'think positive' all the time? 
 
That's understandable. Trying to think positive all the time or change your negative thoughts into positive ones is a losing game. 
 
The reality is we don't get to choose what thoughts pop into our head. They just do. That's the nature of thought. If you are a living and breathing human, you will experience thousands of thoughts each and every day (it's been estimated up to 70,000-80,000 thoughts a day), of which some...

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What To Do About The Fear of 'What If' Coming True

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It's often been said that as humans, we are born with two fears only - the fear of heights and the fear of loud noises, which if that's true then everything else is a learned behaviour, which is good to know, right?
 
Worry in its simplest sense is a misuse of the imagination. As humans, we developed imagination as a resource to provide practical solutions to our problems.
 
So in other words, imagination is a very valuable tool to help us creatively navigate our way...

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What Becomes Possible When We Throw Away The Rule Book?

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When it comes to creating content, I love writing, I enjoy speaking, and I love creating videos.

Yet I don’t have time to write a blog, record a podcast, and create a video each and every week, when would I have time for coaching clients, running my group programmes, and working on new ideas?

So...

Instead of forcing myself to choose one and stick to that, I thought 'how can I get around this?'

Then the idea came to me - 'why do you even need to choose?'

Who says you can't record a...

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